It’s time to normalize the discomfort that comes with change.
It’s time to change outloud.
Change Outloud
the Introduction
In this video, I share:
How I'm thinking about this journey. What I mean when I say I am being more precise and where that came from.
The goals I am working towards over these 12 weeks. (9:58 mark)
What I think the upside of this learning experience will be beyond achieving my goals–because I think sometimes, if we only focus on realizing our goals as the outcome, then we miss all of the other learnings along the way. (15:15 mark)
What you can expect along this journey (20:20 mark)
Week One Reflections
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Raw sharing feels weird. Deciding to share a live recording of my coaching session brought up all kinds of stories. Would people listen? Is it too long? Should I edit it? Will my coach be a distraction? Blah. Blah. And then I realized that’s how I get stuck in inaction. So, here’s the raw recording.
I’d been missing fun in my business. When/if you listen to the recording, at some point, I exhale and say, “I’m having fun. I haven’t been having fun.” I shared this sentiment with a fellow coach, and she asked me, “How did you do that? That not having fun resonates with me.” My response: I stopped thinking and started honoring my desires. My brain will have me focusing squarely on outcomes, how big they are, and how hard it will be to reach them. Talk about a buzz-kill. But this new approach invites me to focus squarely on my inputs rather than on the scary enormity and uncertainty of my results.
I’m giving myself time to collect Ls. No, not losses. Learnings. I’m known for saying “allow yourself to be a beginner.” But I wasn’t actually doing that. I was holding myself to the expectation that I should already know. So when I think about these goals I’ve set for myself and the tactics I’m taking to get there, instead of expecting myself to hit 100% everyday, I say “I’m learning how to be consistent on LinkedIn. I’m giving myself 12 weeks to learn how to drink 2 jugs of water. I’m giving myself 12 weeks to learn how to…” That way of thinking feels sooooo spacious to me.
See where you are now AND. I didn’t weigh myself before starting this 12 week journey. But if my goal is to lose 10 pounds, I need to know where I am now. Stepping on that scale was like…ouch. AND I am giving myself 12 weeks to learn how to workout 3 times a week, to drink more water, and to eat all of my meals before 8pm. I am.
This is a kinder way to be with myself. A couple of times during my reflection, I closed my eyes and said, “This feels like such a kinder way to be with myself.” It was actually my number one takeaway. It kind of took me by surprise because I didn’t realize how unkind I’ve been with myself. 🫣
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Other tidbits:
I created a Google form that I fill out every night before bed to capture how I did that day. You can see that here.
I submitted a $17k proposal and a $15k proposal. Who knows if I’ll get them? That part is not mine to worry about.
I added 7 qualified leads to my email list.
Week Two Reflections
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Moving Through Funks: Collecting Ls
Something I’m Leaving Behind: Growing By Shrinking
Results and other tidbits:
I reluctantly stepped on the scale 🫣 and saw that I’m down 1.8lbs. And I didn’t get excited. That’s something I want to pay attention to. I don’t want to be so detached from my outcomes that I don’t celebrate the wins. Note to self.
I submitted two proposals: a $6200+ (to facilitate a retreat) and one for $37k to help a marketing firm launch a leadership development component for its employees. The retreat proposal was accepted, bringing my cash/contract total to close to $10k over the two weeks with $69k in outstanding proposals.
I added 20 qualified leads to my email list. Slightly off target given I need to hit 84/week to hit my 1k target. I’m not trippin’ though. I have some things planned that should boost these numbers in the coming weeks. #bewhereyouare